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Unity Sand Ceremony - A Hot, New Wedding Trend



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By: Sharon Vaz

If you've attended many weddings lately, or read trendy magazines or newspapers, you've undoubtedly noticed that the ceremonies are no longer just your Grandmother's and Grandfather's typical church wedding.

The Unity Sand Ceremony, a celebration that is usually two to three minutes in length, is a meaningful joining of two lives. In this timeless ritual of marriage, the couple ceremoniously pours various colors of sand from a container, such as a seashell, into one special container symbolizing their coming together as one.

This unique celebration was recently brought into the public eye with the marriage of Trista Rehn and Ryan Sutter of the TV series, "The Bachelorette." Rather than the time-honored ritual of the Unity Candle Ceremony, the famous couple chose the alternative, Unity Sand Ceremony. Their decision has sparked a craze in weddings across the country.

The ceremony has controversial origins, some believing that it began with the Native Americans and some insisting the Hawaiians were the ancestors of the legend. Whatever its origin, the Unity Sand Ceremony is fast becoming a nationwide wedding ceremony trend.

The flowing sand and blending of the colors symbolize the bringing together of two lives into one. Some couples prefer to leave a small amount of sand in their respective container to show that even though they now function as one, they remain individuals.

A staple in marriages everywhere, The Unity Candle
icon Ceremony has long been a tradition for marriages both elaborate and simple. Usually, there is a single candle that both bride and groom light from a flame of their own single candle. Parents or other members of the wedding party often join in the candle lighting ceremony.

The Unity Sand Ceremony can also be altered in many ways to include family and friends. Besides the bride and groom, various colors of sand are given to wedding members who will add their sand to the couple's sand, all flowing into the container, creating a colorful and one-of-a kind symbol of unity.

In an age where couples are planning weddings that are unique to their beliefs and lifestyle, the sand ceremony can be personalized many different ways to fit the occasion. After the ceremony, the couple has a unique keepsake to remember their wedding day.

Hawaii has been a popular destination for weddings since airplanes became the preferred mode of travel. Its mild weather and sandy beaches create a perfect environment for the entire wedding party to be barefoot on the beach while witnessing the Unity Sand Ceremony - a tradition as old and exceptional as the islands themselves.

Not going to have a wedding on a beach? Don't worry. Sand is available online, or the couple can use sand from a destination they've visited or that has a special meaning in their lives. Distinctive containers designed to fit any religion or lifestyle can also be purchased online.

Many couples write their own vows for the ceremony, but passages from ancient Hawaiian or Native American weddings can easily be found on the Internet for the portion of your wedding relating to the Unity Sand Ceremony.

Whatever your dream wedding entails, consider incorporating the Unity Sand Ceremony into the celebration. You'll be sure to create memories that your guests will talk about for a long time to come.




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Wedding Planning Timeline

Congratulations on your engagement. Now it's time to go to work and plan the wedding of your dreams. With a little preparation (and a sense of Humor!) there is no need to act like a bridezilla.
Here is a checklist to help you keep your sanity.

9-12 Months before the wedding

Announce your engagement.

Plan what type of wedding you want- formal, informal, day or evening, number of guests

Choose a wedding date.

Determine your budget- Discuss who is responsible for what expenses before making any plans.

You should include your parents and future in-laws in this discussion. Remember to treat them with respect. Any money they provide is a gift!

Make guest list - Don't forget to include your parents and future in-laws in this discussion.

Speak to officiant- Priest, Minister, Rabbi, Justice of the Peace etc.

Reserve your ceremony and Reception Sites.

6-9 Months Before Wedding

Select your
Bridal Gown

Choose your attendants- Maid/Matron of Honor, Best Man, Bridesmaids, Ushers, Flowergirls, and Ring Bearer

Choose a Photographer

Select bridesmaids dresses & accessories (Remember to be Kind and listen to their suggestions and concerns).

Select a caterer (if needed)

Hire a band or DJ

Book your florist

4-5 Months Before Wedding

Schedule fittings for yourself and attendants (don't forget your flower-girl)

Reserve any rental items needed for ceremony and reception

Finalize guest list

Order Stationery -
wedding invitations, thank you notes, and wedding programs

Address invitations or hire a professional calligrapher

Plan rehearsal dinner - set date, time and location. (This dinner is usually given by the grooms' parents.)

Arrange for accommodations for out-of-town guests.

Start planning honeymoon (Groom usually makes these arrangements after you BOTH decide where to go.) Don't forget to get any passports or travel documents you may need.

Register for gifts.

Purchase shoes and accessories (Remember to break your shoes in before the wedding)

2-3 Months Before Wedding

Order wedding cake

Order
Party Favors

Order all necessary decorations

Book all transportation for wedding day (if necessary)

Buy wedding rings

Visit lawyer to write any necessary wills or prenuptial agreements

5-8 Weeks Before Wedding

Purchase gifts for wedding attendants

Mail invitations (A map to assist your guests in finding the ceremony and reception sites is a nice idea).

Visit hairstylist to determine what style you want for your hair. (Hint: Never change haircolor or change your style right before your wedding. Any changes should be made at least 3-4 weeks in advance).

Have a formal wedding portrait taken

Send wedding announcements to newspapers (if necessary)

Change name and address on driver's license, social security cards, insurance policies, and bank accounts

Reserve wedding attire for groom, ushers, ring bearer (Usually done by the groom).

Mail invitations to rehearsal dinner (if necessary)

Obtain marriage license

Get blood tests if necessary in your state

Plan a bridesmaid luncheon

2-4 Weeks Before Wedding

Confirm ceremony details with officiant

Arrange final fittings for your gown and bridesmaids dresses

Make final floral selections

Finalize rehearsal dinner plans

Confirm details with all service providers - It is a good idea to give them a written list of your wedding day timeline.

Contact guests who have not yet responded to your invitation

Pick up wedding rings

Meet with your photographer to discuss special photos you want taken.

Meet with your DJ or band to confirm the music you want played

Remind all attendants (male & female) when to pick up their wedding attire.

Purchase any special accessories or make-up you want your attendants to wear.

Determine ceremony seating for any special guests (give the list to the ushers).

Plan reception seating-write names on place cards.

Hold On....Your Almost Done! Last Week

Pick up wedding attire

Figure final guest count and notify cater

Arrange for "get-a-way" car from the reception

Review the schedule of events and last minute arrangements with all service providers.

Confirm honeymoon reservations
Pack for your honeymoon

Take a Breath.....It's Finally Here....Your Wedding Day!!!!

Give rings to the best man and maid of honor (If no ring Bearer)

Give the best man money to pay the officiant after the ceremony

Relax and have fun!!! All your hard work and planning has paid off.


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Tips On Cutting Wedding Costs


The most important thing you must consider when planning a wedding is your budget. With the following cost cutting tips you can have a beautiful wedding without going into debt.

1. Create your own invitations

With a little practice you can create professional looking invitations. Buy high quality blank invitation forms. Make sure to use a typeface that is formal, crisp and easy to read for professional-looking results.

2. Gowns

Save money on your Wedding gown and Bridesmaid dresses by shopping at a bridal discount outlets. If alterations are necessary, take the dresses to a local seamstress. If you need a bridal gown slip, rent it rather than buy it.

3. Limit your attendants to Maid/Matron of Honor and Best Man. You will save money on clothing, gifts, and food costs at the rehearsal dinner.

4. Get married in the morning: afternoon and evening weddings are more expensive.

5. For an indoor wedding consider having your reception at a restaurant. Most charge less than a hotel or country club. Plus restaurants do not charge room fees like many facilities.

6. Consider having your reception at a park or public garden rather than an expensive hall. Most public parks are free or charge a small fee.

7. Cut Reception Food Costs

Limit the number of guests to those you really want there. (Remember caterer's charge per person).

Forego the multi-course dinner in favor of a brunch, luncheon, a dessert reception, or even a cocktail party.

8. Cut Bar Reception Costs

Serve only beer, wine, and soft drinks. Do not offer mixed drinks. By eliminating mixed drinks you may be able to cut your bar bill in half.

Consider offering a full bar for the first hour or two and then switch to a cash bar. Do not have waiters/waitresses serve the guest drinks. If a people have to actually go get their own drinks, they will probably drink less, therefore saving you money.

9. Party Favors

You can save hundreds of dollars by eliminating the party favors. If you absolutely want favors, why not make your own? How about buying bags of Hershey kisses and wrapping a few into a small piece of organza cloth and tying it with a cute ribbon.

Forego the printed napkins and matches to save even more money. Also, do you really need a gold embossed guest book? Probably not! Why not purchase a nice guest book at your local stationery store.

10. Wedding Cake

Wedding cakes can be very expensive. To save money on your cake contact a nearby college that offers cooking classes for referrals. A recent Graduate can make you a gorgeous cake a lot cheaper than a professional baker.

To really save money on your cake you could consider using a display cake (A dummy Styrofoam cake) for the display table. A display cake will look exactly like a real cake and your guests would never know the difference. Since you do not have a real cake your caterer can serve guests slices of sheet cake which costs a fraction of the cost of wedding cake.

11. Music

Hire a DJ rather than a live band. If you want live music, visit the music department at your local college for referrals. There are many talented music students who would gladly play at your wedding.

12. Flowers

Why not make your own bouquet? Buy a pretty bouquet of flowers or pick wild flowers and tie them together with wire. Then wrap the wire with a pretty ribbon. (Hint: Roses are not good flowers for bouquets as they fall apart rather easily).

If you want to purchase a professional bouquet, remember to always use flowers in season to save money.

Rather than purchase expensive boutonnieres for the men, why not pin a single flower to the jacket lapel.

13. Table Displays

You do not need expensive flower table displays for your reception. Why not put pretty flowers in a small vase on each table. All the vases do not have to match. In fact, it can look striking if you use a different vase and flower on each table.

Rather than flowers, decorate each table with candles. Here are some tips:

Buy some candles and tie ribbons around them then slip a single flower inside the ribbon. Keep the ribbon long and let it cascade down to the table.


Put a couple of floating candles in a clear glass bowl along with a few fresh flower heads. You can buy a plant like a Chrysanthemum for a couple of dollars and cut the flowers off.


Votive candles on top of a mirror makes a romantic centerpiece for an evening reception.


14. Photographer

Hiring a professional photographer/videographer is very expensive. Consider asking a photographer friend to do the honors (Perhaps as a wedding present).

If you want professional photos, consider hiring a photographer for the formal shots of your ceremony only. Then place disposable cameras on every table. Not only will your guests have fun, but you'll get dozens of photographs as momentos at very little cost.



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